The Rules of Emotional Intelligence – The Course

Drastically improve your emotional intelligence…

in just 24 days.


Learn the psychology-based rules I used to transform my habits and behavior, increase my income 10X (while reducing my work schedule), and forge stronger relationships with my team and family—by learning to understand and manage emotions.


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Emotional intelligence is a superpower. But like any superpower, you have to learn how to train and hone it, in order to get the things you want out of life.

The Rules of Emotional Intelligence is an instructor-based course that teaches 24 rules based on principles of psychology and emotional management that you can immediately put into practice.

The course includes:

  • Over two hours of instructor-led video content, including eight animated videos
  • An easy to understand “Story,” “Lesson,” “Try This” format to help you remember the rules and actually use them in day-to-day life
  • A digital PDF workbook, complete with exercises and activities for each rule, and fillable (editable) fields that allow you to make personal notes
  • The opportunity to ask questions directly to the instructor via online portal or email
  • Full email support (one day response time)
  • BONUS: A free gift electronic copy of the international bestseller EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence, complete with fascinating research, practical stories, and additional exercises for building your EQ

Hi, I’m Justin.

I’m the instructor of this course and the author of EQ Applied: The Real World-Guide to Emotional Intelligence and’s EQ-centric column, Best Practice. I spent years coaching executives and their teams on emotional intelligence and communication, but now I focus on helping individuals and organizations through online courses like this one.

I’m on a personal journey of developing my own emotional intelligence, and sharing valuable lessons I learn along the way. Let’s journey together.


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Check out the first lesson:

The 3-Question Rule

What Students Say:

Thank you so very much for this wonderful gift. Your interpretation of the info and extremely specific, super-helpful analogies and recommendations are unique and priceless."
The simplicity and reality of the rules fit in with any stage of life. You have incredible value in what you are doing.”
It's the first time I take part in an online course that in few days changed my mind and the way I experience everything in my life.”
I wanted to take a moment and sincerely thank you for all your work and dedication. As a therapist I regularly encourage my clients to recognize the importance of remaining mindful of not only our emotional state and how that affects others around us, but how other’s emotions in turn affect us."
" so applicable to both my personal and professional life. I often coach myself, my team, and my Son to 'pause and process' so as to not be reactive, but rather proactive in their responses...Thank you, thank you, thank you."
I learned about your course through reading your emotional IQ articles in Inc. Magazine. They have been so helpful. I am a mother of 2 emerging adults, ages 17 and 15, one on the autism spectrum. Thank you for taking the time to share your talents and skills with those around you."
Reading and following [these rules], reflecting on them, changed my way of thinking and approaching my work, my colleagues, and life."
Truly life changing!"
That is exactly what I needed at this point in my life."

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What’s inside?

Twenty-four rules that have helped me take control of my life and relationships, including:

  • The 3-question rule, that helps you to think before you speak
  • The golden question, that helps you avoid making a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion
  • The “Blue Dolphin” rule, which teaches you how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones
  • The “Milk Carton” rule, which helps you learn how to take action, instead of feeling paralyzed

The Rules

Part 1: Self-management

1. The 3-Question Rule
2. The Blue Dolphin Rule
3. The Rule of Awkward Silence
4. The Rule of Acquired Taste
5. Define the Scope
6. The Rule of Reappraisal
7. Change Your Glasses
8. The Tom Hanks Rule
9. Be a Diamond Cutter
10. First Things First
11. The Golden Question
12. The Rule of Rethinking
13. The Rule of Recentering
14. The Rule of Clocking Out

Part 2: Relationship Management

15. The Milk Carton Rule
16. Disagree and Commit
17. The Rule of the Chess Player
18. Help First
19. The Do Over
20. Turn Critical Into Constructive
21. The Rule of Recognition
22. One Voice at a Time
23. The Rule of Strength and Weakness
24. The Emotional Postmortem


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Frequently Asked Questions

1. Who is this course for?

Anyone who wants to improve the way they handle emotions, or who believes their emotions sometimes get in the way of their ability to achieve their goals, get the position they want at work, or maintain healthy relationships.

2. What makes this course different from other emotional intelligence courses?

A lot of EQ-related courses out there are either too abstract, not relatable to your life, or don’t teach you how to apply what you learn.

I wrote these rules using principles and practices taken from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and used them to transform my own habits and behavior. Over time, I was able to forge stronger relationships with my team, clients, and family. I finally beat a lifelong struggle with procrastination, increasing my productivity and income 10X. And I did it while reducing my secular workload to a part-time schedule of 3.5 days a week.

With the “Story,” “Lesson,” “Try This” format, this course uses real-life examples and simply explained scientific research to give you actionable rules, or constructs, that you can begin putting into practice on day one to build better habits, manage emotional behavior, and reach more of your goals.

3. Who are you?

My name’s Justin Bariso. I wrote EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence, an international bestseller which has been translated into over a dozen languages.

I grew up in a multicultural environment before leaving home to work at an amazing NYC nonprofit for 13 years. I then moved to my wife’s native country of Germany where we started a family along with our own business. But I struggled to find balance—working long hours to provide for a family that I longed to spend more time with.

Over the next several years, I studied how principles of psychology, neuroscience, and personality could be used not only to help my clients, but also to help me. I then used those principles to build better habits and make better decisions—and also helped countless people across the globe to put those same principles into action. At the same time, I learned from hundreds of clients and readers who have helped me to see the world through what feels like a thousand different sets of eyes.

On the personal side, I’m happily married to my dream girl and am the father of four wonderful children—all of whom have taught me real-life, practical lessons on how to understand and manage emotions and emotional behavior.

4. What will I learn in this course?

You’ll learn the 24 rules I continue to use on a daily basis, each based on extensive research and scientifically sound principles. Using an easy-to-understand “three-step” format, you’ll be able to immediately begin applying each rule.

5. How long will it take to see results?

It’s up to you.

If you start putting even just one rule into practice, you should start seeing a difference in how you understand and manage your emotions within the first few days of starting the course.

I’m so convinced of that, I’m willing to give you a full refund within 30 days of purchasing the course if you’re not fully satisfied.

6. Do I have to finish the course in a set amount of time? How long will it take me to learn all 24 rules?

There’s no set amount of time to take the course. Upon purchase, you get lifetime access to all 24 rules.

Each lesson is relatively short (5 – 7 minutes of video) and comes with a series of “Try This” exercises and reflections. You can complete the exercises in as little as 10-15 minutes. Once you’ve completed the course, you’ll receive suggestions on how to periodically review and practice each rule so as to continue towards mastery.

7. How much does it cost?

The current price for The Rules of Emotional Intelligence is $199.

This includes lifetime access to the course, along with all future updates, fully editable (and printable) PDF workbook, email support, and the opportunity to ask questions directly to the instructor.

8. What if I’m not ready to buy today?

No problem. You might consider trying out our free 7-day mini-course.

The free mini-course doesn’t have all the resources of the full course or access to the instructor. But it will give you a taste of the rules, and give you actionable tips you can start putting into practice right away.

At the end of the mini-course you’ll have a chance to upgrade to the full course.

30-Day Money Back Guarantee

I know you’ll love this course as much as I do. In fact, if for any reason you’re not completely satisfied, just request a return within 30 days of purchase and I’ll issue a full refund.


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